So you reach the phase of life when all your friends are getting married. It’s definitely an exciting time, but it can be quite costly when you are asked to be a bridesmaid multiple times. I have been in six weddings (seven if you count my own!), and have spent a pretty penny on being a bridesmaid.
When you are a bridesmaid you have often have to pay for:
– Travel to the wedding (this often includes a plane ticket and a hotel expense which can add up to several hundred dollars)
– Dress and necessary alterations
– Getting your hair professionally done
– Getting a manicure/pedicure with the bridal party
Yep, it definitely isn’t cheap!
However, a few years ago one of my friends selected an inexpensive bridesmaid dress, and it was so wonderful. “Why haven’t more people done this?” I asked. The dress cost me under $60 (including shipping) and needed no alterations. And the best part was, the dress was cute, comfortable, and I could wear it again after the wedding. So, if you are a bride selecting dresses for your girls, consider the following reasons to select an inexpensive, simple dress. Your bridesmaids will thank you!
#1. Huge Money Savings
This is the biggest benefit. Your bridesmaids will love having some extra money in their pockets. The dress I chose for my wedding was under $60 and it needed no alterations. If you think about it, isn’t it asking a lot to expect your bridesmaids to spend $150-$200 for a dress, plus at least $50 in alterations for a dress they most likely will never wear again?
#2. Ability to Reuse the Dress
A dress that is classy, but not a traditional “bridesmaid” dress can be reused for many different occasions. I can wear the bridesmaid dress from my friends wedding to church! It’s also great for other occasions like concerts, and a fancy dinner out. Your bridesmaids will feel so much better if they know they are paying for a cute dress they can wear again.
#3. It’s More Comfortable
As a general rule, traditional bridesmaid dresses are not comfy! You have to spend all day in a stiff dress that is often too tight, puffy, or scratchy. At my friend’s wedding, the inexpensive dress she choose was so comfortable! That made me enjoy her wedding so much more. Plus, her wedding was in the summer, and the dress was much cooler.
#5. It’s Easier to Travel With
Traveling with a floor length, poofy dress isn’t too easy if you’re trying to fly to a wedding using a carry-on bag. It was so convenient flying to my friend’s wedding with a practical bridesmaid dress that could easily be folded into my carry on bag.
#4. If a bridesmaid hates the dress, it’s not a crisis
Okay, truth be told, no matter how cute you think the bridesmaid dresses you’ve selected are, chances are one of your bridesmaids will feel differently. However, it’s not nearly as painful to pay $50 for a dress you think is ugly. Paying $150+ for a dress you don’t even like is a lot to swallow.
#5. Guests don’t pay that much attention to the bridesmaids anyway
When you’re a bride planning your wedding, you want everything to be perfect. I understand that, because it is a huge, significant day in your life! However, when I think back to many weddings I’ve attended, I hardly even remember what the bridesmaids were wearing. That’s because everyone is focusing on the bride, not the bridesmaids. So as long as you choose a dress for your girls to wear that is cute and classy, people won’t even probably notice that it wasn’t some fancy-dancy expensive dress.
As a side note, I’d briefly like to address shoes. I greatly appreciate the brides who have allowed me to wear shoes I already owned, or to buy ones that I actually liked and found comfortable for the wedding. Your bridesmaids will love you if you give them options, rather than telling them they must buy a $50 shoes that is horribly uncomfortable that they will also never wear again. Consider giving them guidelines of what kind of shoe you’re looking for. For example “a tan strappy sandal” or “a dressy black heel.” I allowed my bridesmaids to choose their own shoes, but I did ask them to text a picture first so no one ended up with shoes that totally clashed!
So brides, in closing, if you want to make your bridesmaids love you, choose a comfy, cute, and cheap dress! (Wow, that was a lot of “C’s!”)
What are your thoughts on this issue, either from your perspective as a bride or a bridesmaid?